Seattle Post-Intelligencer: Advice from Carolyn Hax

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Her syndicated column is billed as advice with attitude and a grounded set of values. It appears on seattlepi.com Monday through Saturday.

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And baby makes three, or dozens, of problems
Carolyn Hax: A reader writes: "Why does bringing home a baby "undo" a couple? Any signs to look for or things to keep in mind so you and partner don't get "undone"?"

SATURDAY, MAY 10, 2008
Appreciate first, make assumptions later
Carolyn Hax: "Washington" is openly gay but resents a "Friendly Mom" co-worker's efforts to fix her up with other gay men she knows.

FRIDAY, MAY 9, 2008
Hurry up after first divorce? No, wait
Carolyn Hax: A reader writes: "I am a 25-year-old divorcee. I've realized there were many warning signs that I ignored before and during my marriage. I've grown and learned a lot from it. I've now been dating a great guy for the past six months and am very much in love. I am happy and to be honest, it freaks me out!"

THURSDAY, MAY 8, 2008
Sometimes, money does solve problems
Carolyn Hax: A reader writes: "I have two daughters in their late 20s. Daughter No. 1 (older) is getting divorced, trying to complete GED, has lousy job/poor pay and a little girl (my sweet grandbaby). No. 2 is getting married in May, with satin dress, tuxes, the works."

WEDNESDAY, MAY 7, 2008
Cure a control freak by repeating 'no'
Carolyn Hax: A reader writes: "I have a friend who is pressuring me (and others) to fix her brother up on dates. He seems nice but I know his story and it involves professional disgrace, financial problems and depression."

TUESDAY, MAY 6, 2008
Don't miss a chance to know your nephews
Carolyn Hax: A reader writes: "I'm setting up a trust for my family after I die, specifically for my nieces. I also have two nephews. I routinely hear from the girls by e-mail or letters, and always after I send them a gift. From the boys, never. Am I obligated to leave the boys something?"

MONDAY, MAY 5, 2008
This topic shouldn't be off the table
Carolyn Hax: A reader writes: "I lost my lifelong best friend as she waited for an organ donation that never came. Do I have the right to broach such an intensely personal decision with my boyfriend? How do I approach it without putting him on the defensive?"

SUNDAY, MAY 4, 2008
It's your decision, not your parents'
Carolyn Hax: Dear Carolyn: I have been working in a career field for the past four years, since I graduated from college. For the past two years, I have been unhappy.

SATURDAY, MAY 3, 2008
Be sure of the reasons for contacting Dad
Carolyn Hax: A reader asks, "When is it OK to contact an absentee father who mom says was abusive to her?"

FRIDAY, MAY 2, 2008
Men aren't immune to abusive spouses
Carolyn Hax: A reader writes: "My brother has been married for 15 years. Two kids. My sister-in-law has all the control -- brother's and kids' schedules, (over)spending, etc. Her often-heinous attitude has all members of her family and his, who support this family however possible, in various levels of exasperation. What can he do to change the situation? "

THURSDAY, MAY 1, 2008
Obese woman should make the issue private
Carolyn Hax: A reader writes: "I have been told my whole life that I was fat. My mother spent her life beating herself up for having hips and breasts, and it's only in recent years that I've been able to see past this inherited self-loathing."

WEDNESDAY, APRIL 30, 2008
Husband is the key to handling in-laws
Carolyn Hax: A reader writes: "Our relationship with my in-laws was tense even before our marriage, but got really bad after our first child was born. We have not seen or spoken to them together for over a year."

TUESDAY, APRIL 29, 2008
Stop working over hardworking BF
Carolyn Hax: A reader writes: "My boyfriend works. A lot. He works late most nights, including Fridays and some weekends. He is in a demanding field and I know there is some degree of "paying his dues" at this stage. But I also get the sense that some of the extra hours are self-imposed."

MONDAY, APRIL 28, 2008
She's breaking down, he's not listening
Carolyn Hax: A reader writes: "Love my husband, but he is the only one who is not noticing how stressed I am and will not do anything to help. And I'm not talking about me dropping subtle hints that he's not noticing."

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